So I was having a talk with the other half last night about sex with other people. It all came up after a young guy at her work is planning a trip to the US and is in a very new relationship at the moment. Given that they are both young & there is no real commitment is it ok for him to invoke his "hall pass" or postcode rule to sleep with whoever he wants while over there? I feel there's no real hard and fast rule about this as it would depend on the individuals involved. I think if this guy's girlfriend did have a problem with it or didn't trust him then THAT is the bigger problem & they shouldn't be together. You may not always be 100% happy in a relationship but it shouldn't be uncomfortable either. When the subject got turned to me and my partner & would we do it now 11 years into a relationship with 2 kids the answer was a unanimous maybe. You can never know what happens in the future but if it was JUST sex, there was a don't ask don't tell policy in place and it didn't become public knowledge there should be no problem. Don't get me wrong. I have NO intention of doing this (particularly in Adelaide. Someone WILL find out) & if I went overseas by myself I wouldn't be out fucking everything that moved just because I can. It would have to be an "in the moment" type thing. Humans are not monogamous by nature. This is a scientific fact. It's just society that says to only be with one person at a time. Relationships have to be more than just sex. I think society's term for this of cheating refers more to the lying about doing it than the act itself. At the same time if it were to become a habit. ie that we would only have sex with other people to have a happy sex life then that would be the beginning of the end.
"Fucking is not limited to penetration, Banky. For me it describes any sex, when it's not totally about love." IMDb Quotes: Chasing Amy (1997)
I think that quote sums it up. When sex with someone else becomes love it's time to start questioning your current relationship as to where it's going. I think you can love many people but you can only be truly in love with one person.
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