Established 1976...

This is probably what you do when you get old. Bitch about the new generation. I'm finding that I have no time for the blend of ignorance and arrogance that comes from those born in the 1990s. But wait a minute. I was once 21 too. Did previous generations bitch about me? Perhaps I was too arrogant to notice & if I could go back and visit my 21yr old self (boy could I teach him some things) would I want to punch me? In nearly 36 years of life I have seen, experienced and learned a lot. So maybe I feel that when I talk to these people I'm talking to 21 yo me. Does every generation do this? Hell I still don't listen to my Dad & I assume he's resigned to the fact that I can own my own mistakes now & I'll get by.
They say never look back. It's hard not to though when u think that one decision takes you on a path you never thought you'd be on. All in all I am fortunate to be who I am and to have lived long enough to: witness Halleys comet, see the original guns n' roses live, ride my bike on the road before there were helmet laws, see all of Australia get behind Australia II win the Americas Cup, get to go home from school early cos of the first ash Wednesday fires, use a computer with no HDD that used to share a 7 1/4 floppy drive with 8 other computers through a manual switch, know a time where there was no Internet, mobile phones were carried in bags & only bought outright for over $1000. I've seen stars from my childhood like Gary Coleman and Michael Jackson tragically die and each time it happens a small part of me dies with them.
It's time to look to the future. I don't know what that means or what I'm gonna do but I'm not dead yet. I guess that's the beauty of life. You get to write your own story...

Love thy neighbour

I'm having some problems with my next door neighbour. My partner has given me licence to use the C-bomb when referring to him, just not in front of the kids. He keeps parking his car in front of our house for weeks on end in front of our bins so they won't get picked up. We started asking him nicely and he moved it but now he's put it back there with the intended purpose of pissing us off. This is clearly the case as his driveway is empty and there is plenty of room in front of his own house. I'm not religious but I try to love my neighbour so why won't God strike this guy down for being an asshole? I'm moving in a couple of weeks anyway so won't have to deal with his shit anymore. I suppose it irks me that dickheads can get away with bad behaviour cos nobody can be bothered with the fallout. On a side note, I was on the train last night and I had a drunk Aboriginal guy try to pick a fight with me and about 8 other individual people cos they "weren't Australian". Nobody did anything about it, I just laughed and went back to my music but the security did nothing. Is it ok for him to intimidate and harass other passengers purely because he can rely on the apathy of others? What is security there for anyway? They were watching him and it was like they were waiting for a physical assault before they'd step in. I'm pretty confident that if I did something like that I'd be in handcuffs pretty quick. Still it made for an interesting ride home

The Hall Pass

So I was having a talk with the other half last night about sex with other people. It all came up after a young guy at her work is planning a trip to the US and is in a very new relationship at the moment. Given that they are both young & there is no real commitment is it ok for him to invoke his "hall pass" or postcode rule to sleep with whoever he wants while over there? I feel there's no real hard and fast rule about this as it would depend on the individuals involved. I think if this guy's girlfriend did have a problem with it or didn't trust him then THAT is the bigger problem & they shouldn't be together. You may not always be 100% happy in a relationship but it shouldn't be uncomfortable either. When the subject got turned to me and my partner & would we do it now 11 years into a relationship with 2 kids the answer was a unanimous maybe. You can never know what happens in the future but if it was JUST sex, there was a don't ask don't tell policy in place and it didn't become public knowledge there should be no problem. Don't get me wrong. I have NO intention of doing this (particularly in Adelaide. Someone WILL find out) & if I went overseas by myself I wouldn't be out fucking everything that moved just because I can. It would have to be an "in the moment" type thing. Humans are not monogamous by nature. This is a scientific fact. It's just society that says to only be with one person at a time. Relationships have to be more than just sex. I think society's term for this of cheating refers more to the lying about doing it than the act itself. At the same time if it were to become a habit. ie that we would only have sex with other people to have a happy sex life then that would be the beginning of the end.
"Fucking is not limited to penetration, Banky. For me it describes any sex, when it's not totally about love." IMDb Quotes: Chasing Amy (1997)
I think that quote sums it up. When sex with someone else becomes love it's time to start questioning your current relationship as to where it's going. I think you can love many people but you can only be truly in love with one person.

iTS's sad

I didn't want this to be another lame ass obituary for someone I didn't know just like everybody that came out of the woodwork when Amy Winehouse or Michael Jackson died. In fact, apart from the iPhone I'm blogging from the only other way Steve Jobs affected my life was by the thousands of MAC users that didn't call me for tech support cos their shit just worked. Why do we stop everything when someone famous dies? People die all the time and guess what so will I. It's part of life and it's really only sad for the people we leave behind. My Grandmother died of breast cancer & it's a bitch of a disease and it was so cruel to watch her wincing in pain even with all the morphine she had. I am grateful however, to have spent some of those last moments with her. It was just me and her as each family member got to take their turn to be with her. I was sad as I saw her asleep knowing she might not wake up but I had this inner peace knowing life goes on and at that moment nothing else going on in my life mattered. Steve Jobs had a loving family, true friends that shared his passion not just his money and leaves this world with no regrets. We're not all going to achieve what he did & at the end of the day it doesn't matter. Ticking boxes of achievement may be important to some people but once you've ticked all the boxes what are you left with? Just what you started out with. You can't take it with you and does money really make you happy? It makes things easier and comfortable for sure. But the most humbling thing about life is that nobody gets outta here alive. Even the rich and powerful.

Don't fuck with my freedom of speech

Something light to start off my first ever blog but also a subject that has been shitting for ages. Why can't I say the word nigger in society yet black people throw around the same word or cracker and it's ok. I get that by using it all the time it takes the power out of the word & then it's just another adjective & not a throw back to it's origins of afro-American slavery. Don't get me wrong I'm not an ignorant asshole & don't want to use the word I just hate that my freedom of speech has been limited by the Oprahs of the world who say white people be nice but niggers feel free to say what you like cos you're empowering a "minority". It seems illogical to me. Either it's offensive or it's not. Does that mean that by saying the dreaded C bomb all the time its effect and power will go from that too. I saw a drunk guy getting escorted from the train station on Saturday & the amount of times he dropped the word it actually made me and the security guy laugh. It had no effect. Well it didn't have the effect he intended which was to get the security guy to fight him. He just looked like an idiot & he can go on swearing at the street and get the same reaction.